Leaving a Parish

A posting at Not Too Much links to the story of a committed Christian, who happens to be gay, reluctantly choosing to pursue his calling to lay ministry elsewhere, apparently because of opposition by a vocal few in his otherwise-supportive parish. 

For several years I’ve been wrestling with an analogous dilemma, altbough not in connection with the disputes about homosexuality. I’ve been reluctant to tell the story, but now seems like a good time to do so.

Three years ago, I taught a four-week adult-ed Sunday school class on the scientific case for theism.  It was intended as the first installment of a hard-eyed look at "core Christianity," in the hope of showing that the religion of Jesus was intellectually defensible even from a skeptic’s perspective.  The number of handouts I had left over each Sunday suggested that the attendance fluctuated between 60 and 80 each week.  At the end of the four weeks, I handed out a written feedback survey and got back something like 25 responses, all but one or two of which were favorable.

The head of our adult education program, one of our associate rectors, told me I couldn’t continue with the second series of classes.  He said my christological views were insufficiently orthodox.   The rector and several of our other highly-orthodox priests invited me to lunch to talk about the issue.  I explained that my christology was essentially agnostic; I wasn’t persuaded of the Nicene variety, but I had no particular agenda to attack it, and I couldn’t ignore the fact that millions of people did believe it to be true.   

I pointed out that my classes could help get doubters in the door, and in the case of our young people, perhaps help slow their drift away from the church.  I commented that a whole lot of the unchurched aren’t even sure about basic theism. The orthodox leadership had essentially zero chance of making "proper" Christians out of them without first laying a basic theistic foundation. Our efforts, their and mine, could be complementary.

My arguments made no discernible impression.  Our clergy couldn’t have been nicer about it, but the decision was final.  I’ve since been given to understand that the only role I’m ever likely to play in our adult-ed program is that of audience member.

That’s one of several factors that have caused me to think about switching parishes.  My wife and I have visited some other local parishes, and been very favorably impressed with one in particular. 

But our existing parish is home.  And I was encouraged when the bishop said to me and a liberal friend in the parish that he was glad we were staying, because it’s not good for parishes to get too far out of balance in either direction.  So for the time being, here we stay.

Still, I wish I were teaching Sunday school.

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9 responses to “Leaving a Parish”

  1. Al Kimel Avatar

    D.C., of course you shouldn’t be teaching Sunday School in a Christian congregation. You are clearly not a Christian, except by your own unitarian definitions of what Christianity is. Nicaea is the touchstone. That your class so overwhelmingly supported your class witnesses to your teaching gifts. But you still aren’t a Christian and therefore should not be exercising a public and authorized teaching ministry in a Christian parish. Surely you can see that!
    I pray that one day you will be able to break out of that little box of skepticism that you have created for yourself.

  2. EWF Avatar
    EWF

    Some Episcopal priest and theologian, of great rebute in “the right circles,” once made the comment that the rectors/senior pastors/ministers of Christian churches would be aghast if they could know through mind reading the “Christian beliefs” of their congregations. The overwhelming majority, he said, would be snuggly embracing one or more of the heresies from the history of the Christian church–and feeling pretty good about it. Contented pledging units, I imagine.
    Like the Gospel reading from today, even Numero Uno could sometimes miss the mark in judging someone else’s faith quotient.
    Conclusion and recommendation: find a place to teach.

  3. apostlejohn Avatar

    One of the pressures on pastors is that offering a class in the church is often misunderstood as an act of the church affirming what is being presented. There are times when a well grounded group of Christians need to be challenged with something beyond their own faith. Moving out of the comfort zone.

  4. Simeon Avatar

    And I was encouraged when the bishop said to me and a liberal friend in the parish that he was glad we were staying, because it’s not good for parishes to get too far out of balance in either direction.
    Well, that was certainly a compliment. But at some point, you need to be at church for yourself, too. That’s what finally got my family to change locations to a mainstream parish (hard to find in Dallas 🙂 The rector at my former parish had remarked on more than one occasion that he was glad someone with my viewpoint was attending his church. Was even invited out to lunch to chat about church stuff, specifically because of that. But after a while, even as nice as he was (and he’s a very nice guy), it became apparent I was a real Episcopal fish out of water. It just became really unsatisfying to be a parish’s pet “liberal.” (Yeah, I was also worried about what sort of Christian formation my kids might encounter as they got older – tho’ it wasn’t a real issue for at the time, them being pretty young)
    I’ll also have to call bullsh*t on Al’s comments. While I’ll leave the very rude tone for our host to deal with (if he sees fit), I fail to see that “Nicaea is the touchstone” for separating the “real” Christians from “those others.” So the Emperor of the Holy Roman Empire stuffs all the bishops in a building, surrounds them with soldiers, and tells them to work out their differences or else, and it’s a “touchstone.” ?

  5. bls Avatar

    Another stellar example, Simeon, of why “discussion” with some people is a complete and total waste of our precious time and efforts.
    What’s really interesting to me is how many people from other sects seem to feel the need to involve themselves in what’s going on in ECUSA. Must be insecurity.

  6. bls Avatar

    (That, or boredom. The irony of all this is that once a person has “swum the Tiber,” there’s nothing further to talk about. All debate and discussion is at that point officially quashed, so if they want to keep talking, they have to swim back!
    God help us all. 😉
    )

  7. Edwin Avatar

    bls,
    Funny. Persons in communion with the See of Rome have managed to fill many tomes for centuries with “nothing to talk abut.” RC’s are among the most contentious, hard-thinking folks around. They’ve produced far more solid theology and had far more rip-roaring tear-your-hair-out fights over doctrine than we Anglicans ever have (granted there are a lot more of them). I suggest that you are operating out of sheer prejudice here.

  8. David Huff Avatar
    David Huff

    Edwin,
    I believe that bls was referring to the fact that Al, once an Episcopal priest, had literally left the church to become a Roman Catholic priest (i.e. “swimming the Tiber”). It isn’t legitimate for Al to criticize us from the inside, as it were, since he’s no longer part of our church.

  9. bls Avatar

    Actually, Edwin, I agree with you that the RCC has produced many great debates – but not these days. Here’s John Paul II on women’s ordination, for instance:
    Wherefore, in order that all doubt may be removed regarding a matter of great importance, a matter which pertains to the Church’s divine constitution itself, in virtue of my ministry of confirming the brethren (cf. 22:32) I declare that the Church has no authority whatsoever to confer priestly ordination on women and that this judgment is to be definitively held by all the Church’s faithful.
    IOW, debate on this issue – and on others, like birth control and homosexuality – has been officially shut down today. So the RCC isn’t quite what it was, is it?
    If Al wants a fight, IOW, he needs to talk to people who can give him some opposition. That’s us. In fact, I suggest that you’re the one doing the prejudging.

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